Alysse Aallyn

Category: #CoDependence

  • Purrsiflage – Your Purrperson Horoscope with Alysse Aallyn

    Dec 14

    Today the Universe Has a Message for You – You Don’t Have to Go Through This Alone. Check your friend list. Do you dream of love, sex, connection? Hand-holding, hugging, family celebrations? You were born to search for Alliances. An alliance is symbiotic, good for both sides of the equation. To reach out, you must each decide your motive (“I Could Use a Friend”) and approach with the CERTAINTY that you are WORTHY of friendship. This last one is tricky because we are ALL looking for validation.  This is the source of many “imposter” dreams where we find ourselves naked in front of the entire class, unprepared on Test Day!

    Love Begins With Friendship: You Are a Giver and Worthy of Help – We can’t see everything because we don’t have eyes in the back of our heads. Luckily, we are surrounded by other humans, struggling, just like us.  If we pledge to help each other, we can dispatch terror and celebrate joy! Comforting! But how can we tell the difference between Builders and Exploiters? We don’t want to end up devoured; someone else’s temporary “fuel”.

    Purrson Danger  – When someone is trying to mangle your self-esteem, recognize that fact. Some Purrsons purposely diminish themselves to attract mates: Bad Idea. Even if it comes in the guise of “friendship” any person who takes you up on that offer is an enemy. This is not what friends, and certainly not lovers,  are for. When someone is trying to “capture” you, i.e. limit and control your possibilities and behavior, that person is a hostage-taker looking for slaves. NOT a friend.

    Purrson Challenge – How to recognize friends? Friends are honest: “I just don’t like that dress but maybe it’s me.” Friends are forgiving, ‘I’m sorry, I was having a bad day. I know you’re sorry, too.”  Friends are fun, “Let’s cheer ourselves up.” Friends are helpful: “Let’s figure a way out of this.” Are you honest, forgiving,  fun-loving and helpful? You’re ready to be a friend. Friendship is a good place to start. Be the friend you want to have – warm, funny, loyal, truthful.

    Love Enriches – It Does Not Deplete – – Friends are a mirror in which we see ourselves. We can experiment with possibilities, we can expand our reach.  Our intelligence is doubled, as well as our efforts.  Our sorrows are halved and our ideas are increased exponentially.  Reach out! You never know until you try. And there’s always the possibility of Love and a deepening sexual connection.

    Love Transforms as Purrpersonhood Transforms – Things you thought you could not do seem possible now because someone believes in you. Believe in yourself because they do, and honor them by believing in them, in return.

    Locked Back to Back the Purrson Pair Sees Everything – Gaze turns outward at the world, not inward on each other. Are you chewing or strengthening? Learn the steps of your tango. Add new steps of your own.

    As You Change, the Couple Changes – Compare Training Journals. Are you evolving? Can you evolve together? Is it safe to speak the truth? Does one partner try to dominate? Does one partner use infantile behaviors to get “their way”? There is no “one way.” As joint Purrsons, the couple has goals also. Compare. Allow differences. The truth will be revealed.

    Models & Mentors – “You are my sun, my moon and all my stars”

    – e.e. cummings

    “All that we love deeply becomes a part of us” – Helen Keller

    “Love makes your soul crawl out of its hiding place” – Zora Neale Hurston

    “Love is not proud or boastful, keeps no record of past mistakes – love rejoices in the truth” –

    II Corinthians

    “Laugh as much as you breathe, love as long as you live” – Rumi

  • Purrsiflage – A Daily Cat Horoscope for the Purrson Within by Alysse Aallyn

    Dec 13

    There is Conflict in Today’s Horoscope – Something’s Coming. Are you having bad dreams? Maybe about natural disasters like storms, volcanoes and  flooding?  Do you fear war, robbery, violation, home invasion? Or do you dream about your loved one’s face turning bitter and their words cutting sharply?  Conflict is inevitable.  It is even necessary – birth pangs couldn’t be more natural but seem objectively terrifying. In dreams, we rehearse our fears until some of us fear to dream.

    It Always Comes Before You’re Ready – Here it is – the reason you became a Purrson. To figure out, even if only metaphorically, what is going on. You will have to seize control of yourself to seize control of your tools. It’s battle or go under. The force against you is superior – no question about that – you must be wily and assess when to expend energy and when to conserve your strength.

    You are a Force Field.  By virtue of your temperament as a Purrson you are a magnet for desire, change, for evolution itself.  Others may tell you to stand back, take your place in line or wait your turn but your appearance into this chaotic universe triggered no such guarantee. We are here to learn to use our power.

    Conflict Makes a Purrson – Force stirs up resistance.  Actions create re-action as we swing back and forth in our determination and direction. We clash and crash.  Sometimes we regret it bitterly, “why did I do that?”  Sometimes we fear loss or harm so much we become immobilized.  The challenge is to assume your stride, elucidate your goals and plan a direction.

    Purrson Danger – It’s all too easy to make others fear you. The one with the biggest weapon THINKS he wins every fight. But what looks like compliance to you could be revolution – you will be toppled and lose your heart’s desire.

    Purrson Opportunity – Learning to use conflict constructively and Purrson-ly is a Superpower.  Other people are force fields, too.  If there is any way to blend these powers and head in the same direction, we become invincible. Welcome the knowledge provided by the Conflict archetype in your Purrsiflage Horoscope.

    Study Your Opponent – Some clever scholar has separated these opponents into groups & classes. Read up! Some opponents – physical contests, weather conditions – don’t even have a brain. So who – or what – are you playing against?

    You Are Playing Against Yourself – your own fear, incapacity, beginner status. Seek mentoring so you have advice along the journey. Who is the sensei who will guide you? Someone who desires both your safety and your growth.

    Reward Yourself – The best place to do this is your training journal. Think hard about every contest and how you performed.  Assess your challenges and accomplishments. Way to go!

    Models & Mentors –  “I used to tell myself, boy, if you can survive this, you can survive anything” – Tom Lichtenberg

    “Laughter is the proof that our tragedies don’t define us. Laughter is the survivor’s language” – Josh James

    “Cancer didn’t bring me to my knees, it brought me to my feet”

    – Michael Douglas

    “If you want to awaken humanity, awaken yourself. If you want to eliminate suffering, eliminate what is negative in yourself. Your gift to the world is our self-transformation.” –Lao Tzu

  • Purrsiflage – Your Purrsonhood Horoscope with Alysse Aallyn

    Dec 10

    The “Power” Issue will control your day – Is this your archetype? If so, consider yourself one of the Elect. Most people feel that archetype of Power it’s the most valuable archetype in the Purrson Oracle.  But purrsonhood builds over time, and power can destroy in an instant. We are well familiar with fires that get out of control, rage-fueled spirals, explosives that blow up in your face and escalating weaponry. How do we master such an overwhelming force?

    You Must Own Your Power – Accept that you have the force within you to get things done and to bend unfriendly circumstances to your desire and will. To others, creativity looks like magic.  Accept that. Isn’t that what we all want – a little magic?

    You Are Iconic – But the Power archetype is about the inherent magic that is especially, irreplaceably You. You have a power no one else has, incorporated in your being, your possibilities, your desires and your memories.  This takes a lifetime to accept because we all nervously want to be Someone Else and experience existence through the armor of Having only an Outside instead of just the very vulnerable Inside in which we all feel imprisoned.

    Dreams Instruct You –  Your dreams bring all these passions together as psychic poetry, elucidating what you think you want, what you hope you want and what you are afraid you want. The ultimate magic will be to seize conscious control of this potent power source.

    Purrson Challenge – The challenge is to truly connect with others, reveal our world Inside, and avoid blasting their apparently impenetrable Outside with our terror, our longing and our fear.

    Purrson Danger – We cannot take hostages and we must never become a hostage. Freedom is a fine line to walk. If we wish to reach out, we must treat others with respect and claim like respect for ourselves. Accept your “experiments”; do not fear them but allow them to take you where you need to go.

    Purrson Opportunities – There will be stumbles and terrors aplenty, also successes that LOOK like stumbles and terrors, but which we only realize on reflection were real leaps forward. This is why we must carefully assess our daily efforts without being harsh with ourselves. Speak gently to yourself as you would to a most beloved child. You are your own Most Beloved Child. It is not selfish to commit to this belief, it is simply placing the oxygen mask over your own face FIRST so that you can administer this life-saving force to others. Find someone with whom you can share your journey, without fear or judgment. This connection will teach us everything we need to know about how to connect with others.

    Fear & Trembling: Where would we get the courage to become purrsons? Human history begins with an enormous fear of God or whoever is causing all that lightning, those earthquakes and striking everybody down. Killing small helpless, pretty things was meant to be flattering and propitiatory to this God (I don’t get it either.) then Jesus came with a message about how God was really loving, generous and wanted the best for us. We know how that turned out.

    Becoming a Purrson: As children, we struggled to understand where we fit on the power spectrum. I tried killing a snake and experimented with bullying other children the way I was bullied. I didn’t care for it. The only relief was in thinking about, researching and understanding what was going on. My earliest researches, as for many children, were in astronomy and dinosaurs. The cold magnificence of the planets and the complete wipeout of the dinosaurs gave me a way to stand back from the immediate suffering of the schoolyard. I then moved on to the early Egyptians who tried to solve their problems through magic and art. The art was visually appealing and the magic was emotionally soothing.

    Pick Your Battles: I saw that most schoolyard fights were a reaction to the immediate suffering of pain or confusion, and that they magnified, rather than solved, those problems. There was a manifest holiness about this discovery. It rescued me from the torture of everyday life and elevated me to a plane where every other contributing thinker had already become immortalized.

    Study & Strategy: I read everything I could get my hands on in history and biography (research) and in fairy tales (magic). When I fell in love with the novels of C.S. Lewis and Rumer Godden, the world judged my taste good – when I discovered Agatha Christie, it did not – but it turned out everyone else was reading her too. Agatha is a short course on human nature (original sin) and a proponent of both the scientific and Socratic methods. She’s great training for a Purrson. I wrote it all down in my Training Journal.

    Claiming Your Power: By the time you’re a teenager you can see you have some power – some mental, some physical. The question is developing it and finding appropriate gurus. Avoid the dominance/submission game.

    Keep Going – Recognize that you have been touched by the power and honor her by being grateful for the glorious gifts of life.

    Models & Mentors: “I did not deceive you. I permitted you to deceive yourself.” Agatha Christie

    “An Indian proverb says everyone is a house with four rooms – physical, mental, spiritual and emotional. Most of us live in one room or the other but if you don’t visit each room each day you are not a complete person.” – Rumer Godden

    “You are never too old to dream a new dream or set a new goal”

    – C. S. Lewis

    “You have to believe in yourself” – Sun Tzu

  • Dec 7 Horoscope: Welcome to Purrsiflage with Alysse Aallyn

    Are you a Purrson?

    You are if Cats recognize the Inner Cat in you. Either you love cats, or cats love you. They respect you. Cats are here to teach us to respect ourselves. Let’s set some ground rules. 

    Planning & Mapping: Purrsons lead a designed life. A diary (also called a Training Journal) offers the ideal format in which to plan. Attempt to quantify the difficulties that you feel and assess possible reactions. Just because a situation is tough does not mean it shouldn’t be explored – on the contrary:

    – Repel takeover  – You are your own purrson – not somebody else’s hired gun.

    • Feel what you have to defend – your soul will reveal it to you – through relationships, through instinct, through time and through dreams.
    • Know when to let down your guard – there are times to connect, to share, to Love.
    • Learn from mistakes to hone your art. There is no Failure: only Learning. All education is precious.
    • Respect criticism; it is resistance training – it sharpens our game. We are each other’s cuttle bones, as well as cuddle bones.
    • Don’t Fear Difficulty – Take the attitude that the more time it takes the more fun it is. Your life is a long story, full of exciting challenges. Purrsons love gathering around the campfire to share adventures.

     Welcome to the Purrsiflage Horoscope. Let’s read your future through daily planetary evolution! 

    Today, Dec 7, your ego has work to do.  Did you dream last nigh? Yes you did, though you might not remember it. Your Inner Cat was talking to you.

    Jung tells us that in your dream, you are everyone. The Ego archetype starts our day. This is a warrior archetype. Why did it choose you? Life is a battle.  You are a warrior for something, as well as an advocate for yourself.

    You Are A Seeker  – You are self-defining and self-validating. You are on a quest. You wish to explore your possible incarnations.

    The First Resistance – Often it is our own self who resists most deeply; even savagely. Ultimately we must realize we have hijackers inside our brains wrestling for control. You can recognize these by their negative content. These negative voices clearly wish to subdue us into clones which is NOT HEALTHY.

    Becoming a Purrson – It is this resistance that first marks our Purrson status. Congratulate yourself. You are on the road.

    Danger– The worst hazard of self-reflection is not navel-gazing (micro study can be very revealing) but solipsism. Aloneness may in fact be Hell. We can never lose touch with those around us because it is others we are inspiring us. Avoid anyone who fail to treat you with respect.  In our increasingly autocratic world we are very familiar with Aging Babies who want the rest of us to nursemaid their fussy, immature modality because Growing Up is Ouchy. For God’s sake, for your own sake, for the benefit of the Universe and in hope of Eternity, don’t cater to or worse yet, BECOME one of THOSE.

    Challenge – Let’s set a Spirituality Schedule to reflect your needs and interests. Appoint time to be absolutely alone, for meditation and reflection. If you cannot find a room to yourself, a closet will do. You can sit in the meditation position or assume any position that allows you to be comfortable enough to become physically forgetful.  Concentrate first on building a life that allows both inner and outer growth. Surround yourself with people who respect this decision.

    Opportunity – This is a journey. Accept it. Begin your journal fearlessly with “I” and write down all your meditation thoughts and desires. This can be a poem, a fantasy, a checklist – whatever pattern occurs to you as supportive of your desires. Make a list of goals. Push shame away. This is about YOU. Naturally as you evolve, your goals will evolve, and your journal will reflect that. When you have completed your Time Alone – ten minutes to an hour – whatever works for you – pat yourself on the back. What an achievement! You are started on a path of making changing Nightmares into Dreams and making dreams come true.

    Training Journal – Carefully assess your desires versus the demands on you. List expected results if you gave in to either. Your Inner Cat wants you to develop a concept of health. Is ”freedom” staying up all night, consuming whatever substance makes you “feel better”? Clearly not. Assess the negative voice; “You’re weak”, for example. Being “in flight” from the negative voice is actually giving it mastery, you must stand up to it. Learn to answer back – “I’m in training. I did better today than yesterday.” Keep track of your achievements. Even really small ones: “I meditated for 10 minutes” are significant.

    Accept mystery: Life isn’t “win or lose.” It can’t be quantified because we are magical souls with magic coursing through us. Sometimes it’s impossible to figure out and must simply be absorbed, not rationalized. Learn to enjoy art and accept the relief it offers. Reflect back as much magic & mystery as you can muster. Your tastes will develop according to your growth – that’s a good thing. Treat yourself like a loving sensei who wants the best for you.

    Models & Mentors: Always survey possible models. Who do you admire?

    Is it

    Bruce Lee? “The difference between a purrson and an average man is laser focus.”

    Is it Carl Jung? “I am not what happened to me I am what I choose to become.” Read.  Study. Educate yourself. Develop your own models.

    “Avoid having your ego so close to your position that when your position falls, your ego falls with it” – Colin Powell

    “Don’t let your ego get in the way of your success”- Tony Horton

    “The ego seeks to divide and separate. The spirit seeks to unify and heal.” – Pema Chodron

    Think about what your mentors mean to you.  Welcome the day.

  • The Book of You – Haiku Diary by Alysse Aallyn

    #Haiku: Wherever You Go, There You Are

    Forgive

    You –

    Befriend

    Yourself;

    Mother –

    Lover –

    Hero –

    Coach –

    Be

    Worth it

  • The Book of You – Haiku Diary by Alysse Aallyn

    #Haiku: Every Book is a Zen Book

    Puzzle

    Words –

    Assume

    Solution –

    Labyrinths

    Demand

    Escape;

    Look

    Up

  • The Book of You – Haiku Diary by Alysse Aallyn

    #Haiku: The Thief

    If

    Property’s theft:

    My greed’s your

    Crime

    I consume –

    Disperse –

    Your evidence.

  • The Book of You – Haiku Diary by Alysse Aallyn

    #Haiku: The Chrysanthemum

    Civility is

    Buried treasure

    Unearth with care

    Apply freely

  • The Book of You – Haiku Diary by Alysse Aallyn

    #Haiku: The Thistle

    Pry me out

    I’ll fly back stronger

    Flavor your world

    With wilder honey

  • The Book of You – Haiku Diary by Alysse Aallyn

    #Haiku: The Statue

    What I say goes:

    Dominance creates –

    My existence in

    Others’ eyes.